Welcome To Surrender

A shadow work women's retreat.

A space of permission to reconnect, explore and heal more depths of yourself in a supportive environment of love and growth.

You’re Not Broken. You’re Just Tired of Holding It All Together.

Why now?

You’re constantly questioning your identity — not because you’re lost, but because somewhere along the way, you disappeared under all the roles, responsibilities, and expectations.

Maybe there are moments you remember who the f*ck you are…
but then life hits.
The expectations.
The self-doubt.
The little voice whispering, “You’re still not there yet.”

You’re just trying to make it through the day without being triggered by old trauma —
because who actually has time to unpack it when you're holding everything else together?

There’s no space to break down when you’re the one making dinner…
and folding the washing…
and remembering everyone else's sh*t.

You know the deep healing work takes time.
But honestly?
Where the f*ck are you supposed to find time — and who’s going to hold you while you fall apart?

This is your permission to stop holding it all alone.

Surrender Retreat was created for the woman who’s tired of surviving and ready for more.

More softness.
More joy.
More presence.
More love.
More you.

This isn’t about fixing you — it’s about finally creating space for you to feel, heal, and rise from the shadows and beliefs that have kept you stuck in the cycle.

You get to choose something different.

You get to surrender..

Am I hitting any nails on the head?

It's okay if it does, trust me I've got you.

This retreat is for the woman who feels like she’s done everything right — but still feels wrong inside.

  • She’s emotionally maxed out, mentally overloaded, and physically done.
    Not broken. Just carrying too fcking much… for too fcking long.

    You might recognise yourself here:

    • You wake up exhausted, even after a full night's sleep.

    • You say yes when you want to say no, then resent everyone and yourself.

    • You keep trying to be soft, but your guard is always up — because no one else picks up the slack.

    • You want to feel sexy and seen again… but you can’t even remember the last time you felt wanted (by yourself or anyone else).

    • You’re constantly questioning, “Did I do something wrong?” every time life gets hard.

    • You long for presence and peace — but your nervous system is wired for overdrive.

    • You try to communicate openly, but it turns into a fight or silence.

    • You journal, set intentions, do the work… but it still feels like nothing shifts.

    • You want to reclaim your femininity — but the fear of losing control runs deep.

    • You’re the “do-er” — the one who makes sh*t happen — but nothing ever feels done.

    • You know you want more, but the guilt makes you question if you’re just ungrateful.

    • You feel stuck between who you should be and who you secretly desire to become.

    • You’re tired of feeling alone in your relationship, your motherhood, your mind.

    And maybe…
    You're scared you'll never feel like you again.

You’re not selfish.
You’re not dramatic.
You’re not asking for too much.

You’re just not meant to live this disconnected.

Thinking maybe my life is okay?

You set the alarm early — promising today will be the day.
The day you finally get up before everyone else.
The day you move your body, breathe, choose yourself.

But you wake up already wrecked.
So you hit snooze. Again.
And whisper, “Maybe tomorrow…”
(But you know it won’t change — because you have zero f*cking energy left.)

You love your partner (even when he shits you to tears some days).
You know the relationship is fine — maybe even good.
But you keep slipping into roommate mode.
And sex? If it isn’t scheduled, it’s not happening.

You try to be the cool, present mum.
Maybe even fun.
But your kids wake up like they’ve been possessed by chaos gremlins —
and suddenly you’re yelling over dirty undies and feeling like the villain in your own home.

You say things like “I choose me today.”
You light the candle, do the journaling, whisper the affirmations.
But by 10pm, you’re doom scrolling and realize you did f*ck all for yourself.
Again.

And underneath it all?
There’s this low hum of resentment.
Because you give so damn much.
And still get breadcrumbs in return.

You’re not broken.
But you are burnt out, touched out, and soul-starved.
And every time you try to reconnect to yourself,
Life throws another f*cking curveball.

Side note: It is your f*cking time.

"I entered the retreat with an open mind, ready to embrace the experiences. Lurinda provided a safe, calming, and welcoming environment that encouraged us to deeply explore our emotions, feelings, and thoughts. Within the group, we felt comfortable being vulnerable and sharing our experiences, which allowed us to connect through our traumas. This supportive atmosphere fostered strong connections and friendships, all thanks to the nurturing space Lurinda created. Not only did we establish a safe environment for sharing, but we also empowered one another through our experiences. I am incredibly grateful for Lurinda’s wonderful efforts, patience, and love throughout the retreat. I’m truly thankful for finding my voice and confidence again with the help of the amazing friends I now cherish. Thank you."

Madeline

MEET YOUR GUIDE — LURINDA VOLLMER

Shadow Work Coach | Somatic Facilitator | Woman Who’s Been There

My journey hasn’t been easy.

There were times I thought I’d never make it out.
Moments where I truly believed I was too much to be loved — and not enough to be chosen.
I’ve battled severe mental health drops, identity loss, and the kind of pain that makes you question why you’re even here.

I’ve felt like a failure, like I wasn’t allowed to want more — like surviving was the only thing I was good at.

I know what it means to be trapped in a life that looks “fine” on the outside but feels empty on the inside.

I know what it feels like to carry everything… and still feel like you're not doing enough.

And I also know the power of being seen.
Of being truly supported.
Of letting yourself be witnessed — not for who you're trying to be, but who you really are underneath it all.

That’s why I created Surrender.

Not as a luxury retreat.
But as a sanctuary — a space for real women with real pain, real desires, and real lives.

In my space, you are seen.
In my space, you are heard.
In my space, you are loved — not for how strong you are, but for how human you are.

This is the space I needed.
Now it’s the space I hold for you.

MEET YOUR SUPPORT — TORI

Tori is the soul of the space. She’s the kind of woman who makes you feel like you can exhale, like you don’t have to have it all together to be welcome here.

She’s playful, open, and grounding - a reminder that healing doesn’t have to be heavy all the time. Her energy says, "You don’t have to pretend. You’re allowed to just be."

Tori doesn’t just cook.
She nourishes.
She doesn’t just “help out.”
She holds down the fort so I can be fully in coach mode, knowing that you’re being cared for, seen, and supported on every level.

She’s the flexible one, the responsive one - the woman who will drop into process work if needed, co-regulate someone through a hard moment, or quietly make sure your tea is just how you like it.

She holds the micro-moments that make the retreat:
Helping you build your plate at dinner with such care it feels sacred.
Sitting beside you during your tea, your tears, or your breakthroughs.
Greeting you first thing in the morning and being there if you need to cry, laugh, or just be.

Tori brings the joy. She brings the fun. She brings out the version of me that’s cheeky and soft and playful. Our friendship is like Tweedledee and Tweedledum - full of banter, deep care, and unspoken understanding. If I just look at her, she knows what I need. And that’s a gift.

We met through heartbreak and single motherhood. Now we hold this space together - not from a place of perfection, but from lived experience and love.

Tori isn’t just here to support. She’s here to remind you that you’re allowed to receive. That connection lives in the small things. And that being human - fully, unapologetically human - is more than enough.

WHY OUR PARTNERSHIP WORKS

Tori and I don’t just work together.
We see each other - in the messy, the imperfect, the human - and choose each other again and again.

We share similar values.
But we also share similar wounds.
We’ve both lived through grief, heartbreak, and the belief that we were “too broken” to build something beautiful.

That’s part of what makes this retreat what it is.
It’s not curated from the outside in. It’s built from real friendship, real pain, and real healing.

Our bond is rooted in acceptance.
Not just the polished parts, but the parts that are still learning, still stretching, still softening.
It says, "I see all of you… and I still want you close."

And when Tori is here - I get to be fully in coach mode.
She gives me that gift.

All the months of planning, preparation, and structure fade into the background the moment we arrive.
Because I know she’s holding the space beside me.
I don’t have to split myself between logistics and leadership. I get to pour into the women, the process, the transformation - completely.

She doesn’t just support the retreat.
She supports me.
And that makes all the difference.

All you need to do is say yes and fill out the form — we’ll take care of the rest.

Once you say yes, we make this as seamless, supported, and nourishing as possible.

You’ll be guided every step of the way — from the moment you fill out the interest form to the moment you arrive (and beyond). Whether you’re flying in, road-tripping, or need help making this happen — we’re here.

We support you with:

Helping you research travel and flights if you're coming from interstate

Collaborating on your preferences from menu considerations to making sure your favourite tea or coffee brand is waiting for you each morning

A welcome call and two weeks of pre-retreat coaching to prepare your nervous system and support your arrival

Two weeks of group coaching before the retreat to begin building connection and safety with the other women

Your retreat jumper, journal, and a welcome pack to begin your journey

Your Surrender experience includes:

Four days of transformational workshops, embodiment sessions, rituals, and healing

A private retreat venue surrounded by nature — with cozy, intentionally designed spaces to rest, reflect, and reconnect

Nourishing meals and snacks provided daily, lovingly prepared to support your body and nervous system

A pre-retreat welcome call and two weeks of pre-retreat coaching

Two weeks of group coaching for connection and preparation with the other women attending

A post-retreat integration call and two weeks of integration coaching to help you land what you’ve uncovered back into your daily life

A beautifully created integration manual to take home and revisit whenever needed

Your Surrender journal and sensory tools to support your process

A custom retreat jumper as a wearable reminder of your journey

When you arrive, it’s not just your body that checks in — it’s your heart, your voice, and your entire being.

We hold it all.

You just need to say yes.

The Payment Plans

The cost of Surrender is $3k.

This includes food, coaching both pre and post retreat, accomodation and activities.

Weekly Plans

For those who love a good weekly plan.

$250 Deposit

$75 p/w.

Fortnightly Plans

I'm all about flexibility so there's a fortnightly plan.

$250 Deposit 

$155 P/F

Pay Upfront

Want to pay upfront?

$250 deposit 

$2750 to be paid one month after deposit.

Are you still on the fence?

When I ask women what’s stopping them from saying yes, the answers usually sound like this:

  • “I don’t think I can be selfish enough to leave my kids.”

  • “My partner might burn the house down… honestly, I’m not even sure he knows where the kitchen is — I do everything.”

  • “What will people think of me for going on a women’s retreat?”

  • “Should I really spend that kind of money on me?”

  • “How do I even explain this ‘woo woo’ retreat to my partner?”

Trust me — I’ve been there.
My team has been there.
And every woman who has come before you has been there too.

But here’s the truth: if you don’t do something like this for yourself… look at what you’re actually missing out on:

  • Real connection with your partner — where you feel safe to speak your truth and ask for what you need

  • More capacity to be present with your children — not just keeping them alive, but holding space for their big stuff

  • Deep, soul-aligned friendships with women who actually see you and walk beside you

  • A relationship with yourself where you feel proud, steady, and no longer at war with your body, emotions, or life

  • A version of you who stops abandoning herself — and starts living like she matters

This retreat isn’t a luxury.
It’s a line in the sand.
It’s saying: I’m ready to stop performing and start living.

You’re allowed to choose yourself.
And when you do, everything shifts.

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Shadow Work

This is where we go beneath the surface.
Shadow work is the practice of meeting the hidden parts of you — the ones you’ve had to suppress, perform over, or push away to survive.

It’s the part of you that snaps when you’re overwhelmed.
The one who stays quiet to avoid conflict.
The one who thinks she’s too much and not enough at the same time.

In this space, we don’t shame her.
We witness her.
And through that witnessing, she softens, integrates, and becomes part of your wholeness.

Shadow work helps you finally understand your patterns — not from the mind, but from the body and the heart. And once you see them, you can choose differently.

Somatics

Your body remembers everything.
Even when your mind forgets — your body holds the score.

Somatics is the practice of coming back to the body.
It’s learning how to listen to her cues, regulate your nervous system, and rebuild the connection you were never taught to have.

Because how do you know your needs, your wants, or your desires… if you can’t even feel your body?

Most women have learned to survive by disconnecting.
By overriding their no.
By pushing through exhaustion.
By silencing their own signals just to get through the day.

Somatic work teaches you to pause — and feel again.
To understand the difference between safety and shutdown.
To rebuild trust in your own internal cues.
To hold yourself gently when things feel like too much — instead of abandoning yourself all over again.

This isn’t mindset.
This is nervous system re-education.
This is the foundation for everything else.

Embodiment

Embodiment is where healing becomes real — not just something you know, but something you live in your body.

This is the dance. The scream. The stillness. The sensation.
It’s the way you let grief move through your chest.
It’s the moment your body trembles with rage that’s been held in too long.
It’s when you move, breathe, sound, and express without needing to explain it.

Embodiment is the full-body "yes" to your truth.
It’s not about performing a version of femininity.
It’s about becoming the woman you’ve buried under survival mode.

This is where your emotional releases meet your reclamation.
This is where you come home to your body — and yourself.

A snippet of what past clients have said. 

The retreat was an opportunity to contemplate the meaning of the word “Surrender”. For me, it felt like letting go of what I thought I knew, or even what I thought I needed. Allowing myself to fit in with the activities and the group and not in a way that left me feeling defeated, but to actually be an active participant in the retreat experience. That felt like Surrendering to me.

Mads

This retreat was something so special and sacred and for my first retreat I am so glad that I trusted in Lurinda to be the person who lead the way for me, who held me and who stood by my side and for knowing which part was required each and every day.

Jess G

A powerful moment occurred towards the end of the retreat when we stood behind each other during the "fuck you moment." Without realizing it, we empowered and connected on a deeper level, coming together to offer support and encouragement as each person completed their turn. This was a moment I felt was powerful as we connect all together!

Jess

Surrender will forever hold a special place in my heart. This retreat took what I thought was a broken woman and showed me that I’m actually not who I thought I was, I do have the strength and the power within myself to become the woman I want to be. 

Lurinda created the most beautiful and safe space for us all to be given the chance to empower ourselves and to find our voices. This will be a journey you never forget!

Leesa

You won’t leave with a 10-step plan.
You’ll leave with something much more sacred…a deeper relationship with yourself.

After these four days, you’ll walk back into your life with:

  • A body that feels like home, not a battleground

  • A voice that you trust — to speak your needs, your truth, your yes and your no

  • A heart that’s softer, but not weaker — because now it knows how to stay open without losing itself

  • The tools to hold yourself in the chaos, not abandon yourself to it

  • The ability to feel again — your rage, your pleasure, your grief, your joy — without shame

  • A sisterhood of women who’ve seen you in your realness and still said, “I’ve got you”

  • A nervous system that’s not constantly in fight-or-flight

  • The knowing that you don’t have to go back to who you were —
    you get to be the woman you met here

And maybe for the first time in a long time…

You’ll look in the mirror and actually recognise her.

Not because everything is perfect.
But because now — you’re with you.

Fill out the Interest Form
Tell us a little about you, your intentions, and why you’re feeling called to Surrender.

We’ll Reach Out to Book a Call
We’ll connect with you personally to answer questions and make sure this space is the right fit for where you’re at.

Complete the ‘All About You’ Form
This helps us understand your needs, your patterns, and how to best support you through this journey.

Pre-Retreat Coaching & Opening Call
 Two weeks of group coaching to build connection, safety, and readiness — so you don’t arrive feeling like a stranger to the space or yourself.

Surrender Retreat
Four days of deep, embodied, supported transformation — shadow work, somatics, breathwork, embodiment, sisterhood, and rest.

Post-Retreat Integration & Coaching
We don’t just send you home and hope for the best. You’ll receive two weeks of integration coaching and a closing call to help you land everything you’ve uncovered into your real life.

Frequently Asked Questions

You’ve got questions. We’ve got answers.

  • Your intention will be met with love, support and curiousity. What is your intention and why?

    Because this retreat vaules intimacy, you won’t be the same leaving this retreat because we met so many parts of you.

    In a nutshell, yes.

  • A: Absolutely. Many of our past attendees have travelled from interstate to join us. Once you’ve secured your spot, we’ll help support you with travel planning — including flight suggestions, airport transfer options, and anything else you need to make your arrival smooth.

    We’ve got you — from the moment you say yes to the moment you land at the retreat. You won’t be doing this alone.

  • That makes so much sense — and you’re not alone. Most women feel nervous before saying yes to something this big. It’s not just a retreat — it’s a choice to finally choose you, and that can feel scary when you’re used to putting everyone else first.

    Here’s what I want you to know:
    You don’t need to be fully ready.
    You just need one part of you that’s willing.
    We’ll support you from the moment you fill out the form, all the way through your journey home.

    Fear doesn’t mean it’s wrong.
    Sometimes it just means you’re standing at the edge of something that matters.
    And you won’t be doing it alone.

  • Absolutely. This space isn’t just for mothers or women in relationships — it’s for any woman who feels disconnected from herself, caught in survival mode, or longing for something deeper.

    Whether you're navigating career burnout, healing from past relationships, or just feeling like life has lost its spark — you belong here.

    This retreat is about coming home to yourself — not a role, not a title, not a relationship status. Just you. Fully.

  • Ahhhh I totally feel you here. The first few retreats I did I cried in my car leaving my kids. I wanted my bed, my house, my safety but I knew I didn’t want to be living the same way anymore. I knew I wanted more. So even though I was freaking out, I felt proud of myself for doing that.

    And to feel proud of yourself to just say yes - is incredible. And you are not alone.

    There will be other women in the same boat and I’m also here to support you x

  • Perfect - all is welcome. I’m totally happy to answer and chat.

    My Instagram/Facebook is

    @PerspectivebyLurinda. Let’s have a chat.

  • 100% have felt this myself and this is why I have payments that equal $75 p/w because I wanted women who are serious about stepping into their power for themselves without feeling like they are breaking the bank.

    Plus - I know you will have the experience that you will always remember.