I'm Lurinda. Somatic shadow work coach, retreat facilitator, and the woman who spent years just trying to make it to the end of the day.
The Real Story
For a long time, my entire goal for the day was this: don't cause damage.
Not to the world. To the people around me. To my relationships, my image, the fragile sense of okayness I was holding together with both hands.
Dreaming about more wasn't even on the table. I was just praying I could get through the day without saying the wrong thing, being too much, or setting off a chain reaction I couldn't contain.
That fear was everywhere.
In my relationships, I became whoever the room needed me to be. Too loud? I'd dial it down. Not confident enough? I'd perform it. I could read someone's weak spots within minutes and more often than not, I'd pull back before they could get close enough to hurt me. Push them away first. Because underneath the mask, I was terrified of what people would find.
In motherhood and step-motherhood, it became a constant fear of getting it wrong. Overstepping. Understepping. Worrying that my mental health was damaging my kids. And slowly, that fear swallowed my expression, my joy, and my sense of place.
I had severe anxiety and depression. I was hospitalised. I was later diagnosed with ADHD and complex PTSD. And I spent years in therapy being told to just let it go.
But I couldn't. And honestly? I didn't want to.
Because those parts of me weren't broken. They were survival. They formed to keep me safe when safe wasn't something I could count on.
Why would I throw them away?
What Actually Changed
The shift didn't come from another book or another framework. It came from a room.
A shadow work container. A group of women. And for the first time, parts of me I had buried for years were seen. Witnessed. Held.
And I wasn't made wrong for them.
No one told me to release or let go or move on. They just stayed. With all of it. With me.
That was the moment I understood what shadow work actually is. It's not about dismantling the parts of you that protected you. It's about finally turning around, looking them in the eye, and saying I see you. I hear what you needed. And I'm not getting rid of you.
I came to shadow work to expand my knowledge of the mental health field. What I didn't expect was for it to change my entire life.
I am in the healthiest, most stable relationship I have ever been in. And sometimes that still shocks my nervous system, because for so long hard was all I knew.
I am so deeply present with my children. I am proud of the mother and stepmother I am now. Not because I'm perfect, but because I did the work to meet the parts of me that were getting in the way of that.
I have real friendships. I used to struggle to let people stay. Now I have relationships that feel safe and reciprocal.
I have a business I built from the ground up and still love running.
And there is still a small part of me that is quietly, genuinely shocked at how much has changed. Not because I don't believe in this work.
But because I lived the before. I know what it cost. And I know what it feels like to be on the other side of it.
That's why I do this.
If This Sounds Like Where You Are
You don't have to be in crisis to be here.
You might be a mum, a stepmum, a business owner, a coach, a woman carrying the weight of everyone else's needs while quietly wondering when it became so hard to feel like yourself.
You might be doing everything right on the outside while something on the inside is still bracing, still scanning, still waiting for it to fall apart.
You might have done the therapy, the courses, the personal development. And still feel like the real shift hasn't happened yet.
That's not because you haven't tried hard enough. It's because the mind can only take you so far. The body has to come too.
This work is for the woman who is ready to stop managing herself and start actually meeting herself. You are not behind. You are not broken. You are exactly where you need to be to begin.
And I know that because I truly have been the woman that has got knocked down and back up time and time again…especially on the days where I’ve knocked myself down.
How I Work and Why It's Different
My approach to shadow work isn't just cognitive. It's not about understanding yourself intellectually and calling that healing.
It's body-based. Because that's where the shadow lives.
Your nervous system decided what was safe long before your mind had any say. It learned: be quieter and they won't leave. Hold it together or everything falls apart. Those weren't conscious decisions. They were survival responses. And they live in the body.
So that's where we work. Somatic shadow work combines the depth of meeting your shadow parts with the body-based process of actually moving through them. Not just naming what happened. Not just understanding why. But bringing the nervous system into the room and letting it learn, slowly and safely, that it doesn't have to hold on so hard anymore.
This is the work I have trained in deeply.
Not as a checklist, but because I lived it myself first.
Shadow Alchemy Certification, Level One and Advanced for Somatic Shadow Work
Body-based and somatic training
Breathwork Facilitation
Retreat support and co-facilitation under experienced facilitators
Retreat Facilitator Mentorship
Ongoing learning as a Support Coach and class facilitator inside the Shadow Alchemy Certification
I don't just study a modality. I go all the way in. I practice it on myself. I bring it to my relationships, my parenting, my life. And then I bring what's real into the room with my clients.
That's the only kind of facilitator I know how to be.
I stay up too late reading fantasy novels and cry over warrior queens reclaiming their thrones every single time.
Sunday couch, smutty romantasy, zero apologies. Part of me is convinced I am Aelin Galathynius and I will not be taking questions.
If we're talking fictional men: Team Cassian. The raw loyalty. The I will walk into the fire with you even if you push me away energy. Every time.
I share this because your real life is a hero's journey too. And if you've ever felt like you're somewhere in the middle of your own becoming, not sure what's on the other side but knowing something needs to change, you're in the right place.
A Little More of the Real Me
Ready to Stop Just Getting Through the Day?
If something here landed, the next step is simple.
1:1 coaching is where we do the deep work together.
Just you, me, your body, and the parts of you that are ready to be met.
If you want to know whether it's the right fit, reach out. I'd love to hear where you are.
Not ready for 1:1 yet? Come and explore the Surrender Retreat or get in touch.